God Ordained Family and Understanding of Submission

We are to be careful how we use the word "Submission" within a marriage. By no means that a husband is a king but rather a spiritual leader in a home as a Pastor is a spiritual leader in Church. I still submit to my wife and my wife submits to me. In fact, we mutually agree about everything. The only area my wife allows me to do is make a tough final decision that is best for the family when she cannot decide. It's a matter of woman's understanding of spiritual submission. In greek, there are two different meanings of the word head (kephale). One is a reference to the physical head, the skull, of the man and the woman. The other is a reference to the source and authority of Christ, the man and the woman. Commentators are divided on the meaning of the Greek word ‘kephale’ (head). Some interpret it to mean ‘source,’ while others maintain that it signifies ‘authority.’ Some scholars have examined the evidence and discovered that the Septuagint, the Greek translation of the Hebrew Bible, records a number of places where the term head figuratively means ‘chief’ or ‘ruler.’ Our biblical family institution established by God (Eph. 5:22–32, 1 Pet. 3:1–7). The family is ordained by God and His authority (Gen.1:26–28, 2:20–25). We both believe that this applies to "the source and authority of Christ, the man and the woman". I am following 1 Peter 3:7 and listening to my wife is very important. I don't know how many men understands or even follow 1 Peter 3:7. That verse is important and very helpful in my own marriage. Open communication between my wife and I are our # 1 priorty. I will always to my best to submit to my wife's feelings and wishes. Spiritual intimacy in marriage is about partnering with God. In a Christian marriage relationship, God is at the top and my wife and I are at opposite ends on the bottom. As the two of us grow spiritually, we will move upwards together toward God. Engaging in a personal relationship with God is the first and most important step in initiating spiritual intimacy. Submission to me means "Live with your wives" The term translated "live" means "to dwell down with," being closely aligned, being completely at home with. The little word "with" calls for close companionship, deep-down togetherness. Husbands are the ones who should be cultivating an in-depth partnership with our mates. This word "dwell" speaks of intimacy. It is letting somebody else into your life. In every marriage, there needs to be verbal, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual togetherness. The word for "live" means to "dwell together or to be at home with." Peter is telling husbands that they are responsible for the "close togetherness" in the relationship. Providing a good living should never become a substitute for sharing deeply in life. The husband is to be sensitive to the needs of the wife. Know your wife. The success of your dwelling with your wife will be in direct proportion to your knowledge of her. Knowing your wife includes those things that others don't and won't know. Her deep fears and cares. Her disappointments as well as her expectations. Her scars and secrets and also her thoughts and dreams. It calls for a sensitive spirit, a willingness to be involved, to listen, to communicate, to care. The husband is exhorted to live with his wife "with understanding."